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coming here. crashing on your couch for a week 'cause ♪ technically, i'm homeless ♪ hey, "mousse-tache." i'ma hit the couch. you know where i be. tonight on "rock center" -- we saw her story and witnessed her struggle just after the storm. the day she realized she had lost everything dear to her. >> i can't wrap my head around it. >> tonight ann curry reconnect with the grandmother who is defying mother nature. >> with all the darkness, all the tragedy, they make me cry because they're so generous and so loving. also, have you ever worried that someone close to you could actually be addicted to the web. >> he is just a different person. >> dr. nancy snyderman investigates a diagnosis. >> it did cost you your children? >> yes, i did miss out on five
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years of their childhood. tonight kate snow reports on the best-selling author who set out to learn what makes parents love their kids no matter what. >> no biting, chris. >> but never imagined he would befriend the parents of a columbine killer along the way. >> she said i had to pray that he got killed before he hurt any more people. it's a terrible thing to have to live with. and about everything we have been told during the campaign about the death of manufacturing in america -- harry smith tells us tonht that's just not true. and something we have noticed about our politicians during the storm crisis on the east coast. that and more as "rock center" gets under way. well, good evening, and welcome to "rock center." we around here have been consumed by two huge stories over the past few days. the election drama, of course, and the big east coast storm. and then the nor'easter just last night that came in right on
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top of those already affected. hundreds of thousands are still without power since hurricane sandy. a lot of people who had had power restored lost it again in the snow and wind storm last night. in this region where so many lost their homes, and where millions of people have suffered through it, some times in our coverage of such events, individuals stand out. that happened on this very broadcast a week ago. a woman named phyllis, who was interviewed by ann curry on staten island. and so many of you have inquired about how she is doing, ann curry returned to staten island to find out. >> yeah, we are over oakwood beach, staten island. again the sights get worse and worse. >> reporter: of the more than 100 people who died during hurricane sandy, at least 22 were lost here on staten island. as a storm surge estimated at 16 feet high crashed 14 blocks inland from the eastern shore.
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hundreds of houses were destroyed or made unlivable. 62-year-old grandmother, phyllis, had evacuated with her husband just before sandy struck. awe is that my house? >> reporter: weep f first met hs she was beginning to comprehend the magnitude of her loss. >> my house is gone, everything i own, everything i have is not there anymore. everything is gone. all the things i cherished and saved all these years for my kids, and my muother, my grandchildren, my mother's wedding ring, and her heart, it's breaking my heart. because it is all gone. >> reporter: in a state of utter disbelief, phyllis set off to find any pieces of the life she had been building here. a mile from where her home had been, she stumbled upon some of her greatest treasures, carried there by the storm surge. your wedding photograph? >> see, my mom, there is so many
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more. there has to be more of my father. >> reporter: but her world had been turned upside down. >> i want to go home. but there is no home. i can't go home. and that's killing me. i don't know where we are going to relocate. >> reporter: a week later we caught up with phyllis again to see what happened to her. by then about 70,000 emergency workers had poured into regions worst hit by sandy. and tens of millions of dollars in private donations had been pledged to new york city. some of them inspired by phyllis' story. you touched a lot of people the last time we spoke. a lot of people saw you on television. and a lot of people said that you are one of the big reasons why they donated. >> everybody -- you're home is the place you love, your home is where your family is, you build memories there, you build a life there. and that's what ripped my heart apart, you know. because i loved my home that much. >> reporter: people were especially touched when you talked about your mother's wedding photo.
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>> my mother was my best friend. and as despaired as you are at the loss of everything, you find one thing that means something, you know? it's like you got something back. you got something back. out of all the devastation. it helps take away that, that helpless, empty feeling you have. you know? >> those houses are gone. >> reporter: this aerial shot was taken right after sandy struck. the flooded lot is where phyllis' house had been. after the water receded she showed us what is left. how many times have you come down here since the storm? >> i am here every day. >> reporter: where was your front door? >> this was my steps that went up to my main door. >> reporter: amid all the disaster and pain, phyllis is able to salvage a few moments of joy. >> every time i come here, for the first time, i can't breathe, you know. and i start to cry. and then i say, it's just shut off and, just doing the job. do what you got to do. >> reporter: finding treasures. like this?
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>> this is my dad. my dad and my uncle angelo. >> reporter: found this just today? >> just now. >> reporter: one of the little things that when you find it? >> yeah, yeah, means the world. i can't replace these. i can't replace these. there is only a handful. you see this is all my kitchen stuff. >> reporter: as much as she has lost, she sometimes is surprised by what she find. >> those plates, believe it or not, my mom bought me these before we even got married. when i was engaged. >> not a chip on them. >> not a chip on them. yeah. certain things, like i said mean ape lot. so i will hold on to them. >> reporter: holding on in the face of adversity seems to define phyllis. an irish italian mother of three, the daughter of a sanitation worker and a seamstress. lived nearly 35 years on staten island. everything phyllis has put in she is getting back now. from neighbors and close family,
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like sister gladys. >> every day of my life. every day of my life. i thank god for her. >> we always have each other. >> reporter: you are afraid for her, afraid for her now, why, why are you crying? >> i worry about her. >> reporter: you think this has been really hard, so hard -- >> too hard. too hard. >> yeah, i am looking for my mother's -- for a box. >> reporter: unannounced the firefighters showed up on their own time before their night shift to help her from the same station house as phyllis' fire fighter son. >> reporter: you decided to come out today to help her? >> yes, that's right. >> she is a beautiful woman, a mother to all of us, whatever she needs we will be there for her. >> with all the darkness, all the tragedy they make me cry because they're so generous and so loving and they want to do anything they can for me no matter what it, they'll do it for me. >> reporter: it is that outpouring, that lifts her now. her family has even started a
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web page. so people can make donations. >> i am so embarrassed. i say dent do that. my family, shut up, just let, this is offerings. to start new. >> reporter: so far, $9,000 has been raised for phyllis. >> it's hard at 62 years old. say all right, i have got to start over. but they keep calling me. my cousins keep calling me. don't worry. you'll do it. we will help you. whatever. they're all there for me. >> reporter: yesterday, a second beg storm, a nor'easter brought snow and freezing temperatures to staten island. phyllis, one of annest ma estim 40,000 newly homeless in new york city was able to take shelter in the warmth of her son's house, uncertain about her future. she still hasn't found her mother's wedding ring but she vows she won't stop looking. can you imagine the neighborhood back again? >> oh, yeah.
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when i sclez close my eyes and s my eyes. everything back the way it was. >> we'll keep a close eye on phyllis. special thanks to the fdny. after our broadcast last week on hurricane sandy and its aftermath, we had near-record traffic on our website. mostly viewers looking to help. and we have updated the information there tonight on what you can do for these storm victims. later in our broadcast this evening, a look at a very different aspect of the internet. the people who can't get enough of it. is it an actual addiction? dr. nancy snyderman will have our report. next up, all this election season we have heard a lot of talk about how much the american family is changing. we will meet one family tonight that is downright complicated. >> the tough thing is when we are at a party or something, somebody says, how many children do you have? it is really a tough question. wow.
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welcome back. a lot of the political analysis has been that tuesday's election results broke the way they did because among other things the republican party underestimated
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how much the nation has changed in just the space of the last few years. we are a different people. we have changed demographically. we have changed a lot of our views. definitions of things like the family. though perhaps for you, not quite as much as the family kate snow is going to introduce us to tonight. >> i don't know, my dad screwed me up pretty good? what do you think two dad would do to a kid. >> reporter: a new sitcom on nbc featuring a decidedly modern definition of the ever-changing american family "the new normal" tells the story of a single mom from the midwest who becomes the surrogate mother for a gay couple in los angeles. >> you have no problem doing this for two men? >> oh, no, i requested a gay couple. >> reporter: that's just television. but this is the real life version of the new normal. >> what does coffee have in it? >> caffeine. >> caffeine. >> reporter: they live in a new york city townhouse that just
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got its power back this past weekend after hour cane sandy. author andrew solomon, his husband, john solomon, and their 3-year-old son george. >> he knows the word gay. he knows that he has gay dads. i mean to the extent that somebody of his age can know that. he knows that. >> reporter: and george knows about his other family members as well. but it is complicated. six adults. four children, living in three states. we had to make a chart to explain just who is parent to whom. start with friends of andrew and johns, a lesbian couple, laura and tammy. >> i was a donor and therefore the biological father of oliver. then, they asked me to do it again. >> reporter: so john is also the biological father of lucy, but there is more. a close friend of andrews from college blaine who was single at the time had always dreamed of having kids. >> i said, well if you ever decided that you wanted to be a
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mother i can think of nothing i would feel more honored about than to be the father of your child. so, blaine is the mother of little blaine. >> reporter: with all of this going on, andrew still wanted to be a full time parent. he lobbied john for a child of their own. >> he convinced me. so then we used, may i have george, the red, for just a minute? >> reporter: their old friend laura volunteered to carry george. >> the four kids all call us daddy and papa. and even though these kids live in minneapolis. and these kids live in the southwest. we're all consider ourselves family and the kids all consider themselves siblings. >> the tough thing is when we are at a party and somebody says how many children do you have? it is a tough question. >> reporter: john and andrew know that not everyone thinks their family arrangement is so wonderful. >> some people will find it offensive. and one of the birth
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announcements was returned by somebody who said that our lifestyle didn't agree with their christian values. i respect that. >> reporter: families can be tough to navigate. growing up, andrew's parents struggled to cope with his dyslex dyslexia. they were told he would never read. you still have dyslexia? >> i still have dyslexia. i can't write by hand. i write letters out of order, reversed. put the date down backward, it is a mess. >> reporter: his parents helped him deal with his dyslexia, but when they learned he was gay, that was another story. >> they embraced me and loved me despite a lot of differences and then my being gay was sort of the bridge too far. >> reporter: years later as a young aadult, andrew began a battle with depression which he chronicled in "the noonday demon." andrew says during the worst of it he dent want to live. it sound awful. >> it was. but i came out of it. partly was just getting on the right medication. partly it was meeting my husband
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and having kids. the things i most wanted and thought might never happen, happened. >> reporter: andrew and john got married in 2007. his father gave a beautiful toast. by then, andrew had started writing his new book, andrew says the book began as a quest to understand his own parents. to make sense of his life. did you write this book to foregive your parents? >> i wrote the book and in the course of writing it i did forgive my parents. my parents didn't always accept me for who i was. but they actually always did love me. and that's really the central thing. >> reporter: the central question of andrew's new book, far from the tree, is how do parents love children who are different than they are? andrew talked to 300 families over 11 years, about deafness, schizophrenia, even child prodigies. in the hundreds of case he's examined and documented on tape, life doesn't always turn out the way it is planned. one chapter deals with children
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who are on the autism spectrum. >> he has a mentor that helps him. no biting, chris. >> with an autistic children you have to learn a different emotional language. >> reporter: another chapters, he titles dwarf. doctors told clinton brown any mother he probably wouldn't survive. >> when i was born my mom refused to see me for three days. she was scared. she thought and said that is my child and i want to take my child home. >> reporter: another chapter, downs syndrome. dierdre says she takes life with katherine one day at a time. >> i am lucky to have her in this period of time too. >> i'm lucky too. >> thank you. >> a long way in at exceptor 10, the book by this yale educated author takes an unexpected turn. >> why did you include crime in the book? >> i wanted to look at how parents love children who by some external standard seem like children who would be unlovable or whom they couldn't embrace. who would be the hardest to love?
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i thought, okay, how do you go on loving your own child when your own child has proved to be a brutal murderer? >> how do you love this child, dillon kleibold, one of the two teens responsible for the columbine massacre. >> can you say when was the last time that you spoke with tom and sue? >> i had dinner with sue last night. >> reporter: for the past six years writing his book, andrew has been talking with dylan's parents, tom and sue, who have never spoken publicly. he had unprecedented access to the family's private thoughts. >> you know, when i went out to meet them, i thought if i got to know them i would understand why this had happened and i would detect whatever was off in their household. i spent ape l lot of time there. i stayed in their house. they seem very all american. they seem gentle. they seem intelligent. they seem kind. >> let's talk about the terrible day, april, 1999, this school
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here. that morning, dylan says bye to his mom. >> yes, the last word sue ever heard from him. the door closed. he set off for school. >> reporter: like so many americans, the kleibolds watched the scene play out on live tv, dylan and eric harris killed 12 students and one teacher and then turned their guns on themselves. >> it is an unspeakable, c catastrophic loss to lose a child, to lose your child and everything you believe to be true about that child in the same instant. it is a terrible thing. sue said once i understood it was actually dylan who was doing this i had to pray that he got killed before he hurt any more people. if he goes down i want to know it was his choice. so i hope he will kill himself. and he did it. i was probably right, it probably was the best thing for him. but to have made that prayer and had that happen, it is a terrible thing to have to live with. >> reporter: after all these
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years, people still ask what did dylan's parents know and why didn't they know about his diaries and tapes that were discovered later? >> dylan had this piece of him that was evil. it was not visible to his parents. that's because he was secretive. >> reporter: some people will say why didn't they break into his room? >> because at the time he was growing up, there was no evidence that there was any reason to break into his room. i'll tell you one thing for sure, i know them well enough, so that i can tell you, 100%, if they had had the slightest idea that such a thing could ever possibly happen, they would have tried to stop it and prevent it. >> reporter: andrew wants to be clear he is not an apologist for what happened at columbine, neither are the kleibolds. but -- they still love him? >> very much. she said while i recognize that it would have been better for the world if dylan had never been born, i believe it would not have been better for me. >> reporter: as andrew solomon has learned firsthand, the love
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of parents can at times heal and redeem. >> when i was growing up my mother always said to me, there is no other love like the love you have for your children. if you didn't have children, you will never know what i am talking about. and at the time it made me very angry. i thought i'm gay, i'm not going to have kids. stop saying that. but it was her saying that that partly motivated me to go ahead and fight to have children when it begin to look like a possibility. and it is part of the reason that i did. and as it turns out she was right. >> kate snow, granted that a lot of what is in there isn't for everybody. what would you say is the central thesis in here? >> a lot of it is not for everybody. but i want to say there is also some beautiful, moving stories in here. it is not all bad news. the central theme, about unconditional love of your children. it's about coping with news and differences and having to deal with that. all parents pretty much say they were lonely at first.
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they thought they were all alone. and then they sort of discovered there is an identity to some of these situations. if you are deaf, it is an identity. it's not just a condition. and so they find the groups, find the community out there of deaf people and they're able to, to attach to that. >>en that way this is intended to be for everybody. kate snow, thank you very much. up next here tonight -- we have heard it again and again. america doesn't make things anymore. harry smith will be here from a report from the front that tells a different story. (sfx: sound of piano smashing) roadrunner: meep meep. meep meep? (sfx: loud thud sound) awhat strange place. geico®. fifteen minutes could save you fifteen percent or more on car insurance.
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you are watching "rock center" coming to you from studio 3-b here in new york. coming up a bit later on, some of the moments we captured this past week we thought deserved a bit more attention. go!
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is not a campaign issue it's back to being a reality. you have heard it a million times. we used to make things in america. manufacturing was the backbone of our country. and now it isn't. at least that's the rampant belief. tonight harry smith has some evidence to the contrary. >> reporter: the idea that american manufacturing is dead is a myth. or more accurately an outright falsehood. >> i think there is a team of great opportunity in manufacturing, there is a renaissance going on. >> reporter: mary is the ceo of the vermier corporation in iowa, a company that build a mind-boggling array of machinery sold in 70 countries around the globe. mining, farming, construction, landscaping. since her father put a simple hoist on a corn wagon, 70 years ago, vermeer has been trying to find a better way to do all kind of things. people travel through the country and they see old
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industrial plants and they think to themselves well america's industrial heyday is over. to which you would say what? >> i would say, let's look at the facts. and the facts are that the united states produces 21% of the world's manufacturing goods. we're number one. followed by china, 15, japan at 12th%. >> you heard that right. we are still number one. she should know, because she is also the chair of the national association of manufacturers. almost everything we are building is sold. >> reporter: while the pace of production across the country has slowed in the last few months manufacturing in america over the last decade has grown, a lot. >> what's really outstanding is the fact that in 2010, the u.s. had an output of $4.8 trillion of manufactured goods.
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that was up from $4.1 trillion in 2000. we have been through two recessions in the last decade. >> reporter: recessions that forced come pans to innovate or face extinctions. 5 million manufacturing jobs were lost in the u.s. in the last decade. but new jobs have been created too. and believe it or not, many manufacturers in the u.s. are looking for help. >> you have to have the desire to work and show up every day. and then it's really basic skills. basic math. basing communication skills. we really love it when people come with sort of critical thinking skills or the ability to learn those skills. >> reporter: most of the idea for vermeer's machines are home grown. recently they entered into an agreement with the dutch company to become the u.s. manufacturer of this, a fully automated cow milking machine. >> it was amazing. it blew my mind. i watched it for four hours to make sure it worked.
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that's my kind of milking. farmer ed putz is liberated from having to be in the barn twice a day every day for milking. get a load of this. laser beams scan the cow's udder and the beam tells the machine exactly where it need to go. the cows like it so much they lean up on their own when it is team to be milked. ed's barn is a study in bovine bliss. all of this productivity doesn't come without consequences. case in point, sunny d, in an effort to squeeze every ounce of efficiency out of its juice factory in sherman, texas, the sunny delight company is spending tens of millions of dollars to bring 21st century technology to the factory floor. so maybe 30 years ago this was a line filled with people. >> or what you had is several smaller pieces of equipment that did individual parts of this process didn't do it as fast didn't do it as well as they do today. >> reporter: billy sears is the ceo.
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>> we can have a lot fewer people producing higher quality product at lower cost. that's what it takes for us to be successful. >> reporter: sunny d had a choice, move to mexico or modernize and trim payroll. tom bragg worked at the sunny d plant for 25 years. and with a new automation installed tom and several others have been told, their positions will be eliminated. >> everybody processes it differently, harry. some folks are very angry, and some like myself, are going to make the best out of this situation. >> reporter: new jobs in manufacturing require more than an able body and a willingness to work. >> i don't feel like a victim here. folks need to know wherever they work, they need to consistently and constantly upgrade their skills. what got you here and your prior accomplishments may not necessarily keep you here. >> reporter: a company's survival doesn't leave much room
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for sentiment. billy sear. it seems darwinian to me? >> i don't know if it is darwinian. unfortunately darwin's theories make the world go around. and some times it is scary to think about it that way. it is survival of the fittest. it always is. >> reporter: a cruel truth for employer and employee alike. adapt or else. our thanks to harry smith who we also note was made in america. when we come back here tonight, it's one thing to complain that a loved one is always on the computer. it's another to call it a full-on addiction. we will have our own doctor look at that after this. [ snoring ] ♪ [ snoring ] [ male announcer ] introducing zzzquil sleep-aid. [ snoring ] [ snoring ] [ male announcer ] it's not for colds, it's not for pain, it's just for sleep. [ snoring ] [ male announcer ] because sleep is a beautiful thing. [ birds chirping ]
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welcome back. tonight we take on the growing concern folks have about a friend or a loved one or perhaps themselves when they're honest about it. the folks who can't get off the
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computer. life these days is full of addictions. we dent used to call them addictions in all cases like sex or caffeine or shopping or hoarding. but they are now treated as such by professionals. so how about internet addiction as a bona fide illness? we asked resident professional dr. nancy snyderman. >> 911. >> hi. >> reporter: the voice of a desperate mother in fishers indiana. >> on technology today. he's just crying and really upset. >> reporter: her 17-year-old son chris turned violent when she took away his computer. so brooke mcsweeney called the police. >> reporter: he punched a hole in this wall? brooke says her son is an addict hooked not on drugs or alcohol but internet games. how did you decide it is an addiction and not just a bad habit or something that
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adolescent boy is going through? >> because his whole demeanor has changed. his whole personality. like his, he is just a different person. he can't -- leave the game. >> he knows he is addicted but doesn't want to admit it. >> reporter: hiding in the bedroom with her mother the night of the 911 call was 11-year-old haley, chris' sister. >> i feel bad for him, i really love him a lot. >> reporter: yeah, i know. >> people don't understand it. they don't know what goes on every day. >> reporter: is it really possible to become addicted to the internet? an emerging and controversial theory says yes it is. just as some people become hooked on drugs, alcohol or gambling. stanford psychiatrist dr. elias has studied obsessive internet users for a decade. his research found that up to 13% of people may show signs of internet addiction. >> for something that has changed our lives so drastically
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and so irreversibly, the internet hasn't received nearly the amount of attention and research fund that it deserves. >> reporter: in a small study in china, researchers compared the brain scans of average internet users to the brain scans of internet addicts. they found changes in the areas here in red, responsible for decision making, emotions, and self control. the same areas that are affected in substance abusers. >> we don't know yet whether the changes we are seeing in the brain are the cause of internet use or online video game use or the effect. >> reporter: this past april, the american psych iatric association agreed more research need to be done into what it calls internet use disorder and included it in the apen dx pend its manual.
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>> it is easy to change the definition of a mental disorder and you will have millions of patients. >> reporter: critics question whether this behavior is a real addiction or just an unhealthy obsession. >> not every passion that interest in life is an addiction. >> reporter: dr. francis, a leading psychiatrist who has been fighting efforts to classify the diagnosis of internet addiction. >> i am not arguing against the fact there is a small group of people who suffer horribly from this. when you introduce a diagnosis into the system it is very likely to take off in directions you never imagined. where do you draw the line? why not include work addiction? sex addiction? shopping addiction? golf addiction? model railroading addiction? >> reporter: to the people who say, hey, look this is goofy science. this addiction is just a fancy word for bad behavior and bad parenting, what's your response? >> isn't that what we did to
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substance users, 40, 50 years ago and have research to show drug and alcohol addiction exists. >> they run the country's first residential program for internet addiction just outside of seattle. most people associate internet addiction with pornography or gambling. but this program called restart treats people hooked on online games, chat rooms, even blogs. what separates an addict from an average user? >> inability to stop even though they made promises they're going to quit. difficulties in school. academic failure. withdrawal. distancing from relationships. laeg to family and friends. not showing up with responsibilities. >> sleep deprivation, typical. >> nocturnal. >> stag up late. >> that does sound like addictive behavior. >> it does. >> it is. >> reporter: everyone we met at restart said their virtual lives had destroyed their real lives. we all know people who had
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trouble with alcohol or hard drugs. if you look at this as an addiction is one tougher than the other. >> i think we are all in the same boat. no one set out to become addicted to drugs, alcohol or computer games. >> reporter: by the time brett walker came for treatment he hadn't showered for weeks was unemployed and says he had no friend. >> i have a picture of you here? >> uh-huh. >> describe the person i am looking at? >> i wasn't a very happy person. >> reporter: who took that? >> i did. i don't know. one day i just decided. i just want to take a picture of what i look like now. that sweater, hadn't washed the sweateren months. i thought maybe seeing this would mote maivate me. >> reporter: brett came to restart, addicted to world of war craft, involving millions of players that is designed to go on for infinity. he was considered one of the best in the country, and had been playing video games for 17 years. some times more than 12 hours a day. >> at the risk of sounding crass
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is it fair to say that you were a winner online and a loser in real life? >> yeah. definitely. i mean that's sort of why i just stayed online all the time. and really, one of the reasons why i came up here was because i really had no self worth to begin with. i was so sad and depressed. i still saw what it did to my mom. i could just see her -- just being -- so sad. she didn't know what to do. >> reporter: it's not just young men who get addicted. women do too. but they're more likely than men to get hooked on social networking games. >> it is really difficult. >> reporter: stacy is addicted to a simple, very popular card game, spades, and its chat rooms. a teacher and mother of two, she says she spends so much time in bed playing that game that it led to the end of her 18-year marriage and her husband kept the kids. >> it did cost you your children?
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>> yes, i did miss out on probably five years of their childhood. >> reporter: is there a lot of technology there? >> reporter: since opening in 2009, restart treated over 500 patients. unlike other addiction programs, here, there is a focus on socializing. and ray says restart's facility was specifically constructed to integrate residents back into nature. >> all of our offices actually have windows, all of the way around, so that, you slowly start, there is another world beside my four walls in my bedroom. >> reporter: at nearly $400 a day, most residents can expect to pay over $40,000 for an average stay. and it is not covered by insurance. >> tell me to totally quit out of the game. >> what do you think? >> i am willing to. >> reporter: and today brett is logging out of world war craft for what he vows is the last time. >> what do you think now? >> i mean it feels like closure. >> reporter: in a world where it
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is impossible to function without the internet, ray says it is particularly hard for addicts to break completely free. take chris, brooke mcsweeney's 17-year-old son back in indiana. she tells us he has improved with the help of a therapist in the months since we first visited back in uniform with his high school football team. >> he hasn't gotten to play over the past three years due to his internet addiction. i am just, i am just so overjoyed. i am like, i want to cry, i am so happy. >> reporter: but after the game, when his team mates went out to celebrate, chris chose not to go instead he retreated to his bedroom to be with his online friends. >> he feels like they're there for him. they understand because they're -- they're addicts too. that's his family now. >> wow. so, i came into this subject as a civilian not a doctor. but, thoroughly skeptical.
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i think we may be adding to the pile of addictions a little too quickly over the years. how about you? >> i came in skeptical too. look, we talk about addictions. i came in skeptical. i came out a believer. because if you look at the brain scans, the same area where cocaine and heroin and sexual and -- gambling addicts, their brains light up. same thing for this. and they're rigged, these people are rigged to fail. for women, there is always one more online conversation. for men, playing these games, there is never a win or a loss. there is one more level. it is chasing infinity. and people mistakenly swap these online friends for the real deal. i think, we're just as a society catching up to the science. >> interesting, interesting story. of course we have empathy for all those call the up in that. >> we sure do. >> thank you. guess where we have put more information on this story? if you were to guess on the web. you would be correct. that's where it is. when we come back, the segment
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♪ ♪ ♪ my city of ruins >> here we are, on a thursday night, after so many busy days on end. the whole country has just been through the ringer of this election season, here along the east coast we have seen such destruction and relentless suffering and sadness. in fact, we can just now feel like we can take a step back and point out a few of the things we have noticed along the way. this special storm edition features something we have noticed about so many elected officials these days. they suddenly all have official jackets. this started a few years back and let's call it what it really is, it's air force one jacket envy. being president comes with a lot of things in addition to all the worries of the free world there is also a lot of stuff. the white house. the limousine, or the tripped out suv which even follows you when you walk.
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and then there is the plane, and not one, but two jackets, traditional blue number with the presidential seal, and the leather one that says commander-in-chief, just to clear up any confusion. if you are anyone else but the president, you are at an instant garment disadvantage. that's when the tough get going. schwarzenegger got into the jacket game years ago and he still wears it. governor cuomo of new york has a nice one. cory booker wasn't to be outdone over in newark. ray kelly of the nypd sporting a new one. then there is chris christie's fleece. he has worn it as a kind of talisman every day since his beloved jersey shore got torn up by the storm. it fits him and works with who he is. not as fancy as the others then again he is way ahead in another area. wait till the other governors see what he wore to the western wall in jerusalem. let's see if the president can top that. speaking of the president, there
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he was on election night, crowning moment, second term, thousands of supporters and then, there she was. hair flag lady, living proof that no matter how hard the advance people try to assemble the perfect crowd behind the candidate you can't control what they do. we saw a couple of great examples of this during the campaign, hair flag lady as she instantly became known on the web went there with old glory. you couldn't help but notice her, no matter how lofty the occasion or rhetoric. here was a gem from election night, our friend, jonathan alter wearing a headset from the early 60s. dawn of the electronic age. makes you wistful for a time of space exploration, rampant alcoholism and elections of yesteryear what made it delicious, the event behind him was over. you could hear perfectly well without them. it would have robbed us of this moment. the whole thing got us thinking of richard nixon. luckily there are new home movies of him released as part
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of a new documentary. and it turns out behind the scenes the old man was pretty much the guy we remember for temporarily destrog oying our fh in the presidency. warm, tactile he was not. shakes hands with boy scouts as if they're lepers. kissinger in a bathing suit, confounded by the beach chair. in the film, hr halderman a walk how to china. pictures of opulent bathrooms, film of the pope they secretly recorded because secret recordings were their thing after all. and we get to see nixon rehearsing his phone call with the crew of apolo 11 because he didn't want to screw up in front of a billion listeners. a big development for all of us who love sleeping at staff meetings but hate when our heads lop over. well problem solved. thanks to this discreet bracket that no one will know you are wearing. it allows you to take a snap while upright which we didn't
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think was possible prior to the first debate in denver. this was harrowing, a girl in a zoo in france and a lion with one thing on its mind. luckily no harm done. there was a glass wall behind her. you know the french, they're so much more casual than we are about this kind of stuff. finally, cast members of the jersey shore, famous for getting hammered at the jersey shore they're getting back together for a telethon to raise money for all the places that got hammered by hurricane sandy. that includes seaside heights where their house is. the backdrop for so many of their exploits. a place where a lot of us can trace our childhood memories. okay it was really cold that day. it was very cold. it gets cold on the beach without a towel both in the black and white era, same thing is true today. that is our broadcast for this week. we wanted to let you know that next week on "rock center," among the stories we well have for you, we will meet one of the few people who actually went to
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jail for his role in the housing meltdown. but he wasn't a big-time banker, he was a little guy who exaggerated his income to get a mortgage like hundreds of thousand of other americans. in his case though, this undercover federal agent, and fellow runner, was wearing a wire. >> well, i certainly have in the past. i had a couple out there. >> interesting story, just one of those we'll have for you next week on "rock center." for everyone who worked hard to bring you tonight's broadcast, thank you for being here with us. i hope you will join us tomorror >> live, local, latebreaking. this is 11 news tonight at 11:00 p.m. p.m.


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